I hope the best for you tonight. If I can give you an advice from my situation, it's that I did not push or pressure. I just listened to what my W had to say. But when she said something I was curious about, I did not hesitate to ask her stuff like "what do you mean by that?", or "when do you first remember me doing something like that?"
Her answering questions will let you know a lot more than most anything. But you also need to be careful to come across conversational about it and not make her feel like she is being interrogated. It's a fine line that I'm sure I messed up on a few times. I guess the bottom line for me is that I decided I WANTED to know what she was thinking so I could decide IF I needed to respond, and if so, how.
