W still wants separation, need to DB more

[TrentC]

What I mean is. I was told that right-out compliments could be consider pursuit which is pressure.

If it were borne of neediness or desperation, yes. This is why I said you should offer the compliment and don't let it bother you if it's not acknowledged.

If I don't compliment my own W, and someone else does she may think "This OM compliments me and thinks I am beautiful but my H does not, why should I give him another chance."

You are right; this may very well happen. But you can't control whether that's how she feels or not.

All you can do is act.

And I think a well-timed and sincere compliment, offered for its own sake, would be a good thing towards changing her perception of you. If it's obvious that she made an effort to look nice, say so. If you meet somewhere and she offers to pay for lunch, say thank you.