i have sooooooooo many questions. she's started pursueing me a little bit now I go dark? I'm so freaking lost man. Let her pursue and then what? She aint pursueing right now. There's pretty much NC again. *sighs*
Maybe she got some advice from some caring, experienced people, who advised her to go dark, and she listened to them.
Just a thought.
Puppy
LOL!!!! dude i laughed out loud and spit out a cigarette and almost burnt my shirt.
she's texting. she's sick. depokote (epileptic medicine) symptoms and side effects. i haven't replied. i want to so bad though.
waw 36 (spiritual covenant and common law marriage)me 32 together 13 mos. Bomb dropped march 2nd 2010
children SD (8) S (10) S (3) need help from anyone with my sitch
I am not sure how long I will stay dark. I am not going to initiate any contact unless absoulutly nessecary. The only contact we have had in the past 8 months had to do with D18 and basketball. Basketball is over. No need to see her. I have reached out many times and I get nothing in return. I have read DR couple times myself. She has not tried to contact me at all.
We will see
is there a scholarship in the future for d18 with bball?
waw 36 (spiritual covenant and common law marriage)me 32 together 13 mos. Bomb dropped march 2nd 2010
children SD (8) S (10) S (3) need help from anyone with my sitch
i need a plan. seriously. go dark or not? keep getting closer? what to do? i don't want crumbs lol. i still haven't said anything to her. I really dont know if rob was being sarcastic or not. just wanting to know what the next step is.
waiting to hear back about the job interview as well.
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waw 36 (spiritual covenant and common law marriage)me 32 together 13 mos. Bomb dropped march 2nd 2010
children SD (8) S (10) S (3) need help from anyone with my sitch
I wasn't being sarcastic, you just have $hit in your ears and never listen, no contact, allow her to chase you, she thrives on the pursuit, don't you ever notice that she tends to run away from you when you start to pursue and talk about the relationship, etc. Well?! Do the same with her, "I don't think this will work out with us", "I don't want to be with a girl who makes a relationship so much work", "I'd rather start fresh with someone new", "you argue too much and I don't want to anymore", "it's time for you to move on and find someone else", etc.
I wasn't being sarcastic, you just have $hit in your ears and never listen, no contact, allow her to chase you, she thrives on the pursuit, don't you ever notice that she tends to run away from you when you start to pursue and talk about the relationship, etc. Well?! Do the same with her, "I don't think this will work out with us", "I don't want to be with a girl who makes a relationship so much work", "I'd rather start fresh with someone new", "you argue too much and I don't want to anymore", "it's time for you to move on and find someone else", etc.
so how long should i let her pursue with NC? is there a time frame on it?
then what happens after that? Man I know you are probably slapping ya forehead but i'm reading the book and what is this NC stuff sposed to do? She starts pursueing I give NC. then let her keep pursueing then more NC. THen what?
With NC or not i'm still focused on my goals.
waw 36 (spiritual covenant and common law marriage)me 32 together 13 mos. Bomb dropped march 2nd 2010
children SD (8) S (10) S (3) need help from anyone with my sitch
I wasn't being sarcastic, you just have $hit in your ears and never listen, no contact, allow her to chase you, she thrives on the pursuit, don't you ever notice that she tends to run away from you when you start to pursue and talk about the relationship, etc. Well?! Do the same with her, "I don't think this will work out with us", "I don't want to be with a girl who makes a relationship so much work", "I'd rather start fresh with someone new", "you argue too much and I don't want to anymore", "it's time for you to move on and find someone else", etc.
so how long should i let her pursue with NC? is there a time frame on it?
then what happens after that? Man I know you are probably slapping ya forehead but i'm reading the book and what is this NC stuff sposed to do? She starts pursueing I give NC. then let her keep pursueing then more NC. THen what?
With NC or not i'm still focused on my goals.
Haven't I answered that question twice already on your threads? You still haven't read it!
James, you seem pretty desperate to have THE answer RIGHT NOW to what to do that WILL guarantee EVERYTHING works out FINE.
That just ain't gonna happen dude.
Listen to Rob. Seriously. SERIOUSLY!
I don't post much. I don't update my sitch, because, well, I don't need to... There is nothing happening to me that isn't happening to a bunch of other people. So I read.
The best thing I did, and I did it pretty recently and got results QUICKLY, was to put my frickin' big boy pants on and decide I deserved better than what she was giving me. I let my wife know that I was done with this. I was done chasing, I was done playing games, I was done with her pushing and pulling me depending on whatever she felt like doing that day. I didn't TELL her I was done, mind you, but my actions sure as hell spoke loudly and my actions told her I was done. And she noticed, she noticed fast.
