Huband is having an emotional affair

[ALJ]

I have figured that H is spending about $500-$600 extra a month by living out of the house and in his own apartment. This includes his half of the cost of the rent at the apartment that he shares with a guy that he grew up with. I just have to figure out how to phrase this in the e-mail that I am going to send.

I have begun the process of getting my financial health back in order. Does anyone know of any books or websites that I could read or visit concerning avoiding and dealing with manipulative behavior? Some marriage websites and marriage building resources recommendations would be appreciated also. I started calling marriage and family therapists this morning and I talked to one who sounded promising but my insurance does not cover any type of counseling so I have to wait until I get a job in order to afford his fees.

I did call the legal aid office starting at 9am and I was one of the lucky ones to have my call answered by the receptionist but the advocate who deals with family issues was not in today. Figures. I will start calling again on Monday and hopefully I am one of the first three callers again. They only see people by appointment.

H texted me to inquire about the taxes that we owe and I told him the amount. He was probably discouraged to find out the bill amount but he still managed to make a joke about it. I responded to his questions and once he found out what he wanted to know, that was it from him. His texts only pertain to business matters then he goes silent again. I am beginning to see what 4Luv is talking about when she said her H uses manipulation and control to avoid what is really going on.

Should I finalize that e-mail that I typed up and send it to him immediately since I have no idea when I will be able to talk to legal aid? I really want to let H know how I feel. Should I wait until I talk to legal aid or until the 1 year anniversary of him moving away which will be on May 1st?