seriously -- you need to do a 180 -- do NOTHING for her!
it's unfortunate but fear of loss will cause alot of people to do alot of things to keep from losing something they value do dearly.
But there again is a lesson in reality, fear of loss, you've never given your spouses a reason to fear your loss, if you act this way because you're afraid of losing your spouse, it's quite possible they may act the same way if they get the idea that they will lose you too.
