New and Needing Advice (Long)

[timehealsall]

Well, for the first time, I stood up to her and didn't back down. She again asked that if she couldn't get comfortable in the other room, if she could come sleep in our bed. But this time, I flat out said no. She pouted and complained that the other bed wasn't very comfortable. I just repeated my stance that it wasn't going to happen. So, she tried texting me a couple times, asking me if I was still awake and goodnight. I replied to neither. So, since then, we've only exchanged one email, just asking a basic question.

I know that I've played into her hands so many times during all of this, and that sucks. I've been thinking a lot today that just about one of the only things left for me to consider is us talking to a counselor. I don't know if her hearing someone impartial to the situation say that she needs to stop her EA if she's going to make any attempt to work on us will carry any weight with her. But, she's not hearing it from me and the only people she's talked to about it are always going to take her side.

IMO, it could only help you. even if the therapist can't get her to see the light, at least you'll have someone to help you out in your sitch and get your thoughts straightened out.

I'm happy that you stuck to your guns and didn't allow her into your bed.

I know what it feels like to be so torn between mind and heart. Your mind is telling you to not put up with this crap, while all your heart wants is to be loved and wanted.

I'm proud of you!