I'm confused! WAS

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My husband of almost 6 yrs ( we've been together for 15yrs total) recently told me that he wants to split up. He pulled the ILBNILWY, he actually told me he wants to be with me, but have someone on the side?? Although I know there isn't anyone on the side physically now, he is home when he is not at work. We have a 3yo son, our pride and joy! I've been following the DB 180's and such for a couple of weeks. The thing is, he has been acting as if nothing has changed. Always wanting to hug me, looking at me like he used to. We are still living in the same house, sleeping in the same bed, but currently our marriage is in name only! No intimacy!! he is always asking me what i am thinking about, I don't tell him because it's usually about R, I refuse to talk about that! I try to be strong and not get upset, but unfortunatly I do! Although Sat. night is when I finally snapped and deccided that I wasn't going to let this ruin my life! He noticed the change in my attitude and wanted to know why, I told him I need to get on with my life. The sad thing is we are going on a "family trip" next week, taking our son to "The Most Happiest Place"! It was where we went on our honeymoon, it was gonna be like an early anniversary trip (our anniversary is 5/20)/ first time for our lil man. I asked him if he still wanted to go, he asked me if I wanted him to, I told him yea for son, then he asked me if I wanted him to go for me? I told him, idk. I think he is confused and doesn't really know what he wants. He has been going thru a lot the past couple of months, thinking he was gonna lose his job. He's been depressed, making me depressed,not eating, I've lost at least 10lbs, that i don't need to! But any way, I am confused, I feel as though he is sending me mixed signals. IDK?

Him wanting someone on the side means he wants an open marriage.

What did you say to him?