My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[TrentC]

I need help....I want to write/email the ow that my husband is infactuated with. I want to write her simply explaining that she is a third person in my m and that she is leading my h on. That the way he is treating me will happen to her because affairs don't last. Yadda yadda yadda.

Don't bother trying to contact the OW. It will serve no benefit and will only make matters worse.

If you must write it to get the emotions out of your system, write it and then toss it away or shred it.

I want this to be something to maybe make her second guess her morals and why she is involved with a married man and that "yes" he has been deceiving her.

Do you honestly think that she doesn't understand what she is doing to you or your marriage? Trust me, you are wasting your time trying to convince her of the error of her ways.

And even if there was someone who could do that, that person is not you. You're the left-behind spouse! You'll be lucky if she actually reads it...