I imagine that by hearing ex-ow's H, you might feel more in the know about what is happening. However, it is not healthy for you. And you have no control over what ex-ow does. And there is nothing you can do to influence events, they will be what they will be regardless of any conversations you may have with him. So why do it? Just let him and his creepy wife go away into nothingness, ignore him (detach from him, practice no contact, lol!! . Let him deal with his ridiculous wife, good riddance!! Well, my $02!!
I wouldnt take anymore calls from her H. Im hoping and praying for you that this OW is nothing like my H's was. Every time they decided to end things, she would still contact him telling him she missed him. It made it SO much harder for us. Cut all contact with her H. I know your curious, I would be to, but its not healthy for you.
You are doing great though, taking things slow is good. My H has moved back home and we still havent taken care of combining our finances all the way yet....lol, the state still takes Child support out of his check every month and sends to me....He wants me to change it, but I think Im taking it alot slower than him.
~have a great day!!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Thank you my friends. I know that you are right...I agree that It's not good for me to know too much about what's going on with OW & her H. I have no control over what they do and it will not change what I have to do. I guess the information about OW & her H gives me some kind of "reassurance" that it's over between my H & OW.
I have to be able to rely on my H's actions for reassurance that we are progressing in the right direction. And unfortunately I still don't trust much of what he does or says right now...
I don't know how to tell OW's H not to call me anymore. I don't want to be rude. But I'll figure it out and gently suggest that it may not be such a good idea.
H invited D & her BF over to his place again yesterday. They've spent all evening with him. He's invited them over to watch hockey on Thursday again. I should be happy that he finally wants to spend time with D...but I actually feel a little bit jealous and left out because I feel excluded.
I have to remind myself that it's only been a week...patience
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Nothing much to report, H is sick, didn't see him yesterday, he did call once to ask what kind of medication should he get for his head cold. I offered to go and get it for him, but said that he can get it himself. Called him this morning to check if he is OK and if are still having our morning meeting, said no...too sick.
Should I make him some chicken soup and bring it to him? Or should I just let him be...
Opinions?
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
. Let him deal with his ridiculous wife, good riddance!! Well, my $02!!