Monk: Is it only sex that has stopped, or has intimacy stopped as well. My guess is that if the non-sexual touching is still there, you have a better chance at finding a tolerable marriage. I say tolerable since many people on this board in our positions have NEVER claimed that things got great again. Now in my case, ALL touching has pretty much evaporated. This I believe is even WORSE then just a lack of sex. Dr. Laura even says that women that do not like to touch their husbands are not going to change, that if you as the man like "Touch" and intimacy, you will have to divorce(after the children are gone). And for Dr. Laura to recomend divorce, that is NOT in her nature. I myself have not given up yet, but after I make all the changes in me that are possible, and apply whatever techniques there are to improving our situation, if thngs do not change, then divorce will become VERY likely, and I took my marital vows very seriously. Before I get to that point, I will leave no stone unturned.
I am guessing that many LD women are very comfortable in their "Love" language, like communication, but when it comes to sex and touching, many of them see this as a physical need that is not to important. The trick here is to get them to understand that sex and touch are "LOVE", and that it is just as important as ANY of their needs from marriage. Anyone that says that Sex is not crucial to a great marriage is DEFINITELY WRONG! Read Chapmans 5 Languages of Love and he explans this perfectly.
