How about, "I know you said you don't want to go to Retrouvaille. But it's paid for and they are expecting us. Would you reconsider?" It makes the decision his.
I agree that the dog talk is a lecture where you are trying to teach him something. It needs to be just business.
I see all the retro stuff but I honestly would tell your husband that you decided to cancel it for another time when you both were more open to the idea. I just can't see how continuing to push this weekend on him is helpful. He doesen't want to go and accuses you of being controlling. I would let it go for now and just tell him that you are canceling it. IF HE REALLY WANTS TO GO then he will speak up before you make the phone call to actually cancel.
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Yeah, I see your point Trent, I'm trying to be creative because I've already tried the direct approach. I said it was one weekend, and he agreed, then later reneged on it. Said he just doesn't "feel" it.
YOu don't want it BACK, you just want a credit for a later date.. ask them for credit for a new date at a later time when you call and are ready... its no cost to them.. they don't lose the $$ and its all casual then
IMO I would ask for the money back (in case) things don't work out. You could always use the money to GAL and have him pay for it when he's ready.
A friend of mine did that to her H. She gave him the flyer and said that she would like to go to work on the M, but it was up to him. He signed on his own and they went.
With you handling the Retrouvaille stuff it might seem controlling to him. Just my 2 cents.
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If they say the $$ is non-refundable, it is probably because they had to pay the venue to reserve your food and lodging for the weekend. They may or may not be able to get credit for your unused space, but it is certainly worth an ask. They might have a late registrant who could slide into the space.
I agree with the others about waiting. You are in a better place to have a positive experience if BOTH of you go with a willing mindset.
