If your spouse has 1 foot out the door & you want to save your marriage, accept that YOU are in charge of setting your marriage on course.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Once you start to see positive change, it is crucial that you KEEP DOING what has been working. Don't get complacent.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Remember, 60% of what couples argue about is not resolvable - choose your battles wisely!
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
I really don't need two people to create wonderful changes in a marriage, and neither do you. You just need you.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
One of the most destructive things you can do as you are repairing your marriage is to keep score...I did this, so you should be doing that. It is not a 50/50 proposition at first. Give 100% and watch what happens. Just make sure you're doing the effecctive things. But don't keep score. It will make you bitter and get you off-track. Take the high road!!!
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Wise people don't allow negative feelings or the absence of loving feelings to make them question their commitment to their spouses.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
I have worked with five couples intensively in the last two weeks where long-term infidelity was part of their situations. One of the most important things to remember when healing from betrayal is that patience is absolutely a necessity. Recovery takes time and, even in the age of the lightening speed electronics, you can't fast-forward through the process. It takes good old-fashioned time.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement