Monk, I can understand her not wanting HRT - the side affects can be very scary but as one of the other posters said there are natural herbal remedies that perhaps you two could check out together.
I know that leaving is a very scary thing. I do not ever want to leave my husband. We are in this for better or worse and in sickness and health and besides - I have always adored the ground he walks on - so leaving him is not in the picture.
I have told him before that I feel like he has left me. Oh he is still physically here in the house but he has abandoned our sex life except for once every 3 weeks. I did tell him that I felt like the "invasion of the bodysnatchers" had swooped down and taken my HD husband and replaced him with a very nice LD clone.
In your case maybe she doesn't realise how abandoned you feel. It is often very hard to have empathy for something that you don't understand. She simply cannot imagine being upset because she is not getting enough sex. That is not on her radar screen. If she could only see how it truly effects you and could transfer that to something she would miss then she would maybe be open to a little compromise.
Quote: Anyway, I guess I really ultimately want the full meal deal, the one we both signed up for when we got married.
I understand wanting what you signed up for. I signed up for the same deal but it is not the Happy Meal I used to get. This one is a bunch of french fries short of a order.
Quote: I like you feel extremely isolated as a result of the situation. I really don't know if there is anything you can do to overcome this despair. I have tried busying myself with projects and activites but I haven't found I have gained anything from this approach.
I have kept very busy myself. I took up crocheting in January. By the middle of September I had crocheted 9 or 10 complicated afghans. H said that I was obsessive/compulsive. I wanted to tell him NO What I am is FRUSTRATED. I also am an avid genealogy buff and I spend hours researching both our families. I do work part time and have 3 children that are all active in something. I like to cook so just about everyday I am cooking/grilling something! And of course I get on line and dig around.
I hope that you are able to make headway with your spouse this week. Maybe we will both get lucky this week! Neicie
