IMO I would ask for the money back (in case) things don't work out. You could always use the money to GAL and have him pay for it when he's ready.
A friend of mine did that to her H. She gave him the flyer and said that she would like to go to work on the M, but it was up to him. He signed on his own and they went.
With you handling the Retrouvaille stuff it might seem controlling to him. Just my 2 cents.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
