Monk, I can relate to how you feel. I don't know if a compromise is possible...my H doesn't see it as a big problem. A number of years ago when he did have a strong sex drive it would have been a HUGE problem if I'd suddenly turned away. Now that LD is a factor he said for me to deal with it. Yes he does listen to me but, like you, it is not a big turn on when your spouse makes you feel like he is giving it the "good ole American try" to shut you up!
Could your spouse's LD be due to any medical/hormonal problem? Has she had a physical? Did she have a normal drive in the beginning? There could be unresolved issues that she is not even aware of that is causing LD. Counseling could help if she would be willing to go. I am considering going myself with the hopes that I can later get him to go. Sometimes people have to hear it from others to understand exactly how their actions affect their spouse.
Maybe if your spouse understands that you are at the point of wanting to leave that would maybe create the desire to at least go to a counselor. Is this something that you could discuss with her? Neicie
