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[TrentC]

Because he's already said he doesn't want to go, and that this is ALL ABOUT HIM. He feels as if I controlled, controlled, controlled all of our R and he is not even going to let me make one teeny tiny decision. He is ADAMANT that he will not allow me to DO anything for him and he is ADAMANT that he will not EVER be able to change how he feels about me because I'm just such an evil, horrible b**ch.

I'm not sure what the long metaphor about your dog is going to do to change that. If anything, it sounds like more nagging, controlling behavior to me.

I mean, seriously -- you want to ask him if you should get a new dog, and if he says no, say "Aha! You want to take care of our dog no matter what, then why won't you do the same for our marriage!"? Could you be more passive-aggressive??

Try this: ask him if he's willing to give you one weekend to try to make things work. It's simple, it's direct, and it lets him make the choice without feeling like you manipulated into it.