W still wants separation, need to DB more

[OfficerInNeed]

Before we just did things. We did everything together. It was a given that if one went the other would most certainly go, there was no asking. If I or she said "I am going someplace" the other would get ready because "I" meant "we."

As far as the text messages go, that is something she just did. I rarely even text messaged her back taking those texts and and sweet words for granted.

I been DB for about 5-6 weeks now. My W is still cold and bitter toward me. She shows a lot of resentment toward me when I say something kind, do something courteous or show a new me. I know it will take time for the ice around her heart to melt but I want to ensure I am DB effectively without pursuing, which leads me to my next question...

How do I compliment without pursuing? I received a few tips in my other thread but I am now looking for more creative ways. My W has stunning blue eyes and a beautiful smile and I have ALWAYS compliment her on each but she does not remember me every doing so. Other compliment her and I don't want it to be where other compliment her and I don't therefore she is drawn to an OM.