I would alos echo Jack's advice - trust me. You really need to start doing thing for you. In terms of being "exhausted" - yep this will happen. You will get tired. The question you may need to ask yourself is are you getting tired because you are still trying to "fix" this. The reality is that you need to really worry about YOU. You cannot control what he does but you can control what you do.
As trapt said, letting go does not mean giving up. IMO when you really detach you gain the insight and strength need to move forward. Now foward can be anything that YOU want it to be.
BTW - I am reading Anderson's book and I would echo Trents post..the book is excellent and suggest you pick up a copy.
In terms of "being nice" - my wife has been nice during the whole ordeal - you need to take it for what it is worth. If your S is nice to you then feel free to be nice back just DO NOT read anything into his being nice. His action will speak much more louder than his words.
Take this time for you, keep with your changes, get enought sleep, look into thought stopping and just remember this is now about YOU. Keep looking up and keep believing.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
