To answer some of Robx's questions. We have been separated for 5 months with her living in the apartment for the last 3. We have not been intimate within those five months and her EA with OM just became a PA last week (I believe) when he came to visit her for Easter/my BD.
- question, can she move out faster? 1-2 months is a long time to be sharing a home with someone who just cheated on you with another man, how do you stomach it?
Bring home some boxes, offer to help her pack and move out quicker than she had planned. If she asks what the rush is about, tell her it's time for you to enjoy the single life and smile at her and don't mention anything else, no conversation, let her continue to ask questions and just smile and tell her, "don't worry about it, it's not your problem anymore"
Consequences for her actions. She cheats, she doesn't get to live with you. Let her live with her friends that are supportive of her and the OM. Let her live with the family that is supportive of her and the OM, she doesn't have to live with you during these next 2 months.
