I know how you feel. I honestly believed after living with his parents for 6 months then going on his own for the first time in his life he would have come home. I always helped him with his depression and when he felt down and out about losing his hair, gaining weight I always boosted his self esteem. My H was always insecure and I told him I would love him no matter what he looked like.
See I know for a fact the my H lied to my IL's about me and changed the whole thing around so I would look like the bad guy and guess what, they think that. They haven't even contacted the kids in 16 months! Well, I really have 2 sets of IL's. H didn't talk to his real mother for 12yrs. and then when he moved out of step-mother and father's house to get his own place it only lasted 3 months. He told D13 that they never came to see him or anything. My IC was right. See H's step-mother is a very selfish person and she is very controlling. So my IC told me that she would set him up in an apartment near their home and would then continue on with her own life. Oh by the way, they don't believe in depression and believe I was the cause of H's depression if he had it. Just like he told me, that I was the cause of it. Well, he moved from that city closer to his real mother and made amends with her.
Boy, his father would have a fit if he knew. I know that's why he doesn't take the kids to their house anymore and probably tells them that I won't let him see them. He lies so much since he's been going through this. He is afraid they will slip up and say something about being around the other set of grandparents.
When H was a child and his 3 other siblings they had to choose who they wanted to be with, they put those kids through hell. And H being the baby of the family got shoved back and forth.
Sorry for going on and on, but my point is now he has been in this apartment for 8 months and I really thought it would wake him up, but nope! Maybe because he is near his mother's side of the family. I don't know. But I did know that he was always afraid of living alone. Now he is telling D13 that he is thinking of moving again, says he can't afford this apartment but is looking into renting a house since he destroyed our credit when he first left. Now, he is in a one bedroom apartment which he can afford.....TRUST ME! And is saying he is moving into a whole home to rent which he could afford too!!! It just doesn't make any sense to me at all. But I don't think he will be moving soon because with this apartment there is a lease and it isn't up until Sept.
See, that is where I got my hopes up. Thinking he was just going through his depression and would be back home never thinking it was a MLC. Thought that once his step-mother got out of the picture he would come back home. Then like the fool I am, I thought he moved to be closer to us and here he was talking to his real mother and that's probably why he moved closer. She lives closer to me and the kids.
Sorry for going on and on. Do they ever wake up?????????
