Eric, you are doing great, you've made such a progress...so good to see
About you questions... My H used to compliment me while having the affair. I would just say "thank you". And I do compliment him, when he does anything nice I acknowledge it or about the way he looks...I would say "That jacket looks really good on you" or "I like you in those jeans". Nothing sexual...just nice comments. I don't think there is harm in that. I always received positive reactions from H on my compliments.
And about being nice to each other while you know that she is seeing OM. Yeah, I was questioning that as well when I was in that position, but trust me she knows that you don't approve and that what she is doing is hurting you.
My H when he wanted to R said..."The love you were showing me throughout all of this is what made me want to come back".
So keep at it, you are on the right track
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
