future you have know idea how confusing it really is.
This is my W's script. She has "left" me in one form or another three times in our 10 years. Each time same story.
- at the end of the year typical WAW script. - she moves out for 2 - 3 months (with the exception of a lease she couldn't get out of the first time) - around the one month mark we get intimate again (after she has cheated on me) - relationship starts over around spring time - winter comes and we repeat (not every year)
For my W and I it seams like we get back together after we have sex again. However this time I'm playing it differently. In the past I would already be begging her to come back. I'm acting like it's just sex and doesn't mean anything to me.
Like I've said. If it wasn't for the fact we live apart and she served me D papers we are doing better then we have before she split. We are very friendly, not the fake kind either.
The only thing we haven't done is go out on any real dates. We've had lunch a few times but nothing romantic.
Rob, I don't know how much of a backup plan I am if she served me papers. I could see if she continued stringing me along until her new work schedule and OM time table work out.
Right now I'm all she has, so to speak. She craves attention. It makes it very easy for me to not contact her. I can set my watch to her texts and phone calls.
I'll know more as soon I can sit her down and talk. She starts nights Friday. I'm thinking of waiting to drop the bomb after she has put in a few nights. She should be at her lowest, make loosing me a little more painful. She has no friends at work anymore. They all work different times now. Including OM! She will go nuts if I stop all contact too.
