I said it just gets frustrating and I am stressed about all of this also, bit my tongue with the childish comment and went to work.
Next time, try this phrasing (thanks, Coach!):
"When you get angry with me and shut me out, for how we are not doing financially as a couple, without also offering ways that you can help contribute, it makes me feel ___________ . (like a debit card and billpaying service, rather than a husband?) I need to feel like we are partners in this. If you need to just vent, I understand, but it would be helpful if you could also occasionally come up with an idea on how we can address this TOGETHER. I want us both to be happy."
