Need a pick me up

[pearlharbr]

I think it's fine if you tell her that: "W, if you want me to solve this problem on my own, no problem. But we will do things my way, period. If you want to have a say in how it's solved then sit down with me and discuss how we can solve it together."

I totally get that if she's acting childish you want to call her on it. I'm just suggesting a different way to do that.

When BF wants me to do crap for him that I feel he should do himself I simply tell him I'm not his mother and leave the room or change the subject.