When did you decide to reconcile?

[Abbey]

My T and I have had many discussions about some men NEVER being able to admit to their affair. And since Retrouvaille isn't necessarily feasible for all couples,... the onion gets peeled away a little at a time.

Honestly, I would have loved to have been able to get that junk out of the way a year ago... trust for me is still an issue. And it's not like he's not doing as much as possible to try to make me feel loved... (I love you's many times a day... Cards saying You are the love of my life, etc etc etc).

It's just that as the injured party... most of us need to know that they "get it". (all kinds of books and advice on the subject seem to say the same thing). Getting it goes a long way to insuring they won't do the same thing again.

I'm going to get NJF again. The first time I read it... I spent most of the pages with tears in my eyes. It's time to find a way past this trust thing. And yeah, it sucks sometimes but often the injured party has to do "more work" than we figure we should in order to get things ok again.

Abbey