Wife in MLC, filed in early March

[ericmsant2]

CH

I have not posted to your before but read your thread and feel for you and your stich. Mach is spot on with his advice. Please take the time to really think about what he is saying to you. I mean really think about it. You may not understand NOW but you will understand in the future.

Your future Relationship will depend on who you are and who you become during this process.

Who you become is ONLY achievable when you let go and let life take it's natural course. Yep - a course where you may not have control over everything but you do have control over YOU.

Yes it may hurt, yes it is scary, but that my friend, is how YOU GROW, LEARN and HEAL!

ANY relationship deserves and requires you to do the work now.

Spot on! Oh and what is the "work" you may ask....it is...

The healing and finding of CH.

The key words are healing and finding. Who is CH? What does CH really like? Look man, I am gonna be really honest with you. The BEST chance you have to save your R is to

Detach, Heal, and to really think about YOU.

Your W needs to see a new man but that man must be the REAL you. So you do not make changes for her you make them for YOU. You do not make changes or act in a way that is (believe it or not) some subtle way of manipulation. I am not trying to be hard on you dude. I am trying to get you to realize that none of us can control another person - none of us. What we can do and what we have control over is US.

This is a long road....

Time is amazing sometimes....

CH - take this time for you to really look at your life, what you want, the dreams you had for YOU. As Mach points out this is a long road but ONE that must be travelled! You may not see it now but YOU MUST travel this road as she must travel hers. In the end, you may both reconnect. In the end, if you really do the work YOU will be much better, stronger, healthier and lovable.

Do not fear buddy - you are not alone.

God Bless,
Eric