If he balks at this request then I will KNOW that he isn't anywhere near serious.
Hi 4Luv,
You asked in the other thread... what do I do with the OW and child?
My sitch is slightly different because my H showed up while the OW was only 8 weeks pregnant... saying he'd made a mistake and wanted me to raise this child with him. That pregnancy was the longest pregnancy in history, I swear!
She had designs of moving in herself, the baby and the other 5 daemon spawns she's given birth to, into my H's and my home.
He ended up calling the cops on her (two weeks before the birth) when she showed up at 3 am, broke into the place and refused to leave, accusing my H of beating her up etc.
He called HER husband and told him to come get his #$%^&ing wife etc etc etc.
The contact has been minimal because she's terrified that I'll have access to that child and that we'll try to take it away from her.
I do think in time that the levy will break and she'll try to use the child to manipulate but as of now, it's been minimal.
You are right about what the husband does and doesn't do regarding the OW/child sitch of his own. Do remember though that fear is a funny thing, and it can make people do stuff or freeze and not do something because they fear the outcome. (EG, no access to the child etc). I dealt with that for 7 months and it was quite the wild ride.
best of luck Abbey
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.
