4luv, just had a thought.
Have you looked at marriagebuilders.com. Their MB there has tons of sitch with OW with a child. How to deal with the issue. 2 methods decribed there- total NC or child is picked up with a 3rd party intermediary but the H and OW never ever have contact again. Everything is done through the lawyer. Lots of good insight.

Goodfight, sure I will take a peek. I am not an expert and I am not sure how good my advice will be. I have different thoughts than most here. I am not a "hard stander" (for lack of a better term)

M38, H37
S3, S7
Together 15 yrs
Married 8 yrs
Bomb July 2008
Inhouse separation
"I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count)
Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)