I thought I would share something my FT therapist told me last night. "Stop living your life for you H, start living it for you" He did say that he knew this was easier said than done, but that I had to find away to do this. I guess this is what GAL is really all about.
I had a D convo with H last night. I validated by saying stuff like "I'm sorry you feel that there is no way for us to work it out. I feel that there is away. I understand that you feel D is the answer, I don't feel it is" Stuff like that. He seemed to respond a little nicer with that instead of it being a power struggle.
I really enjoyed that site midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com. I realized that I was playing the doormat for all these months. I love the articles about paving the way for a safe return home for the MLC'er. And Standing without being a bi$% or a doormat.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10