I read lolawar's thread and puppy posted this advice to her that I just want to keep repeating to myself:

"I'm sorry, Lola, but that's not how friends treat each other.

Your husband needs help, and you need to separate yourself from him while he gets it.

Remorse is an ATTITUDE, and a series of ACTIONS, over time. Not WORDS.

Words are cheap.

Puppy"

Me: 28
H: 32
1st marriage 4 both
1 1/2 year married
2gether for 9
1S: 6months
1stepson: 2yo