Husband being hateful and cruel. Is this a stage?

[ericmsant2]

CK

However, after doing something stupid this afternoon, I am pushed back down.

Sorry to hear that but now you need to PUSH YOURSELF back UP

I knew better to get sucked in, but yet I answered him. Of course, this generated into multiple text messages that went on for a couple of hours. He was more cruel with each text he sent.

Not a good move to get sucked back in. As hard as it may seem I think you need to make sure that your interactions with him are as positive as can be. Do not give him the ammo he needs to justify his actions. This is tough when the emotions are charged between the two of you. Next time maybe try NOT to respond if you suspect that you are getting sucked in.

He tried to tell me he had never loved me and faked it for 33 years.

He told me that he once loved me ever so briefly, but wanted early on to leave me.

He said no, it was 2 days after he proposed to me!!

He was so afraid of me (again, I am not even 5' tall) that he decided to go ahead and marry me.

All of this crap is him projecting HIS anger at HIMSELF torwards you IMO. You need to let this stuff slide off your back. Having said this, sometime what the say has some truth to it but you can only determine what that is if you REALLY listen to what he says. Looks like you finally wised up and ended to the convo. Kudos to you.

What in the world is wrong with me?

Actually you may be suffering from a case of "I'm human and I love this person"... seriously, give yourself a little break here. This stuff happens all the time. None of us are perfect. Just learn from it and try and make sure you do not make the same mistake again..what does Einstein say is the definition about doing the same thing over again and expecting different results?

Keep your head up - stay the course and really just focus on you and your healing.

God Bless,
Eric