but i don't want this new him, either. he may come out of it, he may not, i don't know.
It is too bad that it has come to this; I hope your better understanding of yourself and the situation will help.
I can understand what you're saying about not wanting the new him; since I've told my W about some very personal issues that I thought she didn't know about (but she had), she's gotten harder to live with. I know she needs time, and so do I. Your H has put his inabilities on paper. My W (and in the past me) have done it with words. It hurts to be stuck, doesn't it?
But you've done what you could. Time can change things, but you are taking care of yourself and trying to understand yourself, too. Consider this a success, not a failure, TTA~
