SMM23, Has W accused you of faking it or not believing what she is seeing? Are you speaking at all? You have to hold in there but I know it's hard...Do you have children? For me carting our girls to and fro is a great way for me to keep my mind off of the R...but it is extremely hard not to break up when I look at them.
At first she told me that she thought that all the changes I made were fake. Then thanks to Sandi, I realized I was comming on too strong. I just toned it down and have been just more confident and working on my problems. We are still talking and in many ways we communicate better than ever. But, she treats me like the friend that she has to be friends with to keep the peace. We have a S4 and as long as he is awake, we act like everything is fine. Not that we start fighting when he goes to bed, but we just kind of coexist and sometimes talk until she goes in her room and I go in mine. It helps knowing that other people are going through the same thing. I know that my problems caused a lot of this, but it is a two way street and she had a hand in the problems as well. I have a hard time with the WAW issue because she felt she was doing everythnig she could but she was not. We both were trying to fix things and we just never did at the same time or were on the same wavelenghth. So it is not like she was alone in all of this. So now I have to work on all of this by myself and she can sit there and determine if it is going to work or not even though she is not trying and her family is telling her that she needs to get away becasue they do not like my family and me by association. It is just not right. Maybe I just need to vent
