LOL, Saffie, that's why I made sure when doing chores last night to do it in the living room. I was in "his" space, and watching t.v. He was a bit taken aback that I was there, and I just acted as if and had a good time without him - playing with dogs, watching comedy, folding clothes. The plan was to just get up and go to bed at an hour of my choosing without saying a word, but obviously I screwed that up by asking if he was sleeping on the couch and giving him a blanket. MY blanket, btw, which will not be around for him tonight.
OH, and great idea on the sleepover thing. I will plan one soon, I think. DSD loves sleepovers and we can have a great time together in the LR. They won't be around this weekend as my mom is taking them so H and I can go to Retro... not. I'm torn on what to do about this weekend. I want to ask him one last time to go... not. I know I can't, but just saying my feelings out loud so I'm not as tempted. I did remind him in a round about way though that it was this weekend. He mentioned a movie we all wanted to see and I reminded him my mom was taking the kids for us... and he said, oh, it's "that" weekend. Hoping that opened his mind a bit, but I doubt it did at all. (cue 50's music... wouldn't it just be DREAMY if H asked me if I still wanted to go...)
Anyway... back to reality. I am worried about how to handle this weekend as I am 95% sure that we're not going to Retro (leaving a little hope in there) - I don't want him to have too much free time for recontact to happen, it's going to just be a week since last time. Would it be OK for me to ask him to do activities with me? I just don't want to see him take off and spend the entire weekend with friends where recontact would be tempting to him. He may be moody and not in the mood to do anything alone with me, or think it's my attempt at getting him back... so I'm so torn on what to do. I know I can't control him, and it's controlling a bit for me to feel this way, but I hope you guys can understand what I'm trying to get across.
They won't be around this weekend as my mom is taking them so H and I can go to Retro... not. I'm torn on what to do about this weekend. I want to ask him one last time to go... not. I know I can't, but just saying my feelings out loud so I'm not as tempted. I did remind him in a round about way though that it was this weekend. He mentioned a movie we all wanted to see and I reminded him my mom was taking the kids for us... and he said, oh, it's "that" weekend. Hoping that opened his mind a bit, but I doubt it did at all. (cue 50's music... wouldn't it just be DREAMY if H asked me if I still wanted to go...) 
