No, I don't want to be manipulating. I'm struggling to detach. I know it has to be done ... but this is all happening too fast and I'm afraid one little mistake on my part will ruin any chances of future r.
Your future Relationship will depend on who you are and who you become during this process.
ANY relationship deserves and requires you to do the work now.
The healing and finding of CH.....
Slowing down the process can be done, and there is little that YOU have to do....
It is the natural process of our legal system....
Detaching IS scary, albeit necessary for YOU..
It is the process of making a decision that is best for you, not to induce a reaction, but regardless of the reaction. Because it is the best decision for you.
There are two sides to what us LBS's go through.....
The emotional side of things, and the legal side of things.
The emotional is where our spouses are at right now....
Truth be told, they have been there since before the bomb...
That is why it appears to be so easy for them. The more defiant and resistant we LBSs are, the more it reinforces their decision to do what they are doing....
I'm not sayin make it easy by any means.
Ever NOT want to clean your room when you were a kid ?
You weren't manipulating, you just found a distraction that kept you from it....
That distraction , right now, should be you....
The legal is the struggle that lasts way longer...
The legal side is when you are protecting the business side of things. The business of you.....
