Thanks for that encouraging note! With all the help I'm getting here, I feel much better than I did this morning. You are right it's so hard to have him want the d but once it's done it won't be hanging over our heads! The tension of that will be gone at least.
I'll ask one more time for him to agree to the continuance and if he says no AND still wants the d, I'll let it go through. Once it is final, I'll just wait and see what he does.
