I guess I was just looking at the fact that H admires when someone can rise above him, and I wanted to show that I was over being upset about the whole bowling thing... I tend to hold grudges, and taking up bowling again would have been positive. I will not do that again.
I plan on doing a lot more fun stuff around the house with the kids, planning more outings - biking, etc, and just let H know he's always welcome. Sound good? We will let him know what we're doing, but we won't wait around for him. Am I getting this right? Or does that allow him to do his own thing b/c now his kids are occupied and he doesn't have to deal with them... When he was actively with OW, that would have been his dream - to have me take care of his kids while he's out all night. Now that he's around the house more, he's more of a dad to them and may want to join in.
