Great post to Hope. I didn't realize that your husband OW ended up pregnant. My husband and OW have a child together that was born BEFORE we got married. Sorry to hijack but just wanted to know how are you guys dealing with OW and baby. The baby between my husband and OW is what started the affair after we got married...me not setting boundaries with husband's interaction with her and OW using baby as a guilt trip on husband...just curious as this is somehting I will have to take into consideration.
Back to Hope,
I have been reading your thread and I COMPLETELY understand the way you feel. The best thing I can recommend is going dim/dark. I have been dim (only responding to certain text messages with no phone conversations) and that REALLY helped me to see things better as far as my stitch was concerned. I am not good at taking my mind off things so I did something that would occupy the majority of my thoughts and energy...I STARTED A BUSINESS. I am not saying that you have to go that extreme but the point is to do SOMETHING that makes you feel good about yourself. Go HELP other people...volunteer to feed the homeless, mentor a child in need, volunteer at a domestic abuse center. Helping others will not only get you out of the house and around other people but will help you appreciate the things you have in life (with or without husband) that much more. I hope that you take this first step...go dim and get out and help others :-)
Me: 28 H: 32 1st marriage 4 both 1 1/2 year married 2gether for 9 1S: 6months 1stepson: 2yo
