Quote: At worst everything could be 50/50. Do you work?
Yes, I work. And yes I could go for 50/50 split. Currently the signed decree I have awards me the majority of the assets. I'm being advised by a close friend to not dismiss or allow him to refile and by my parents. They said it is cheaper to get remarried instead of continuing to fight the d that he seems to want. Wiley on this board also recommends not standing in his way but letting my h go. Wouldn't the best thing to do be in the best interests of the children? The boys want minimal visits (they have this now in our decree but could get more if h refiles), keep the house (the boys want to eventually go back their to live, it's a tax exemption, i have all the equity if I choose to sell but if my h refiles he could move back into the house at any time). He's so mad right now that if I make him have to refile....there is no telling what he might do to hurt me. He's just not rational. I find it hard to trust a man that says one thing but does another. I've been waiting this past year to hear the word 'dismiss' from him but he hasn't said it even this past weekend.
Quote: Also they tend to rule more favorably for those that do not want a D.
Yes my attorney seems to agree but with my h turning up to say I don't want to stay married to her...may turn the tables on me. It's a gamble based on the judge's decision.
Quote: I think I would get a second legal opinion on this.
My attorney asked me 2 weeks ago what did I want to do if there were no legal ramifications. I said not be divorced. She said ok, lets file the continuance, and go from there. She said that I should not be made to do something I don't want to do.
But alas I'm beginning to think that the d may be the best in this situation. I've tried my hardest to work on this but he just can't stay stable. He doesn't want to be d, but doesn't want a dismissal and is mad because of the continuance!!!
