Is it natural to not tell everyone about your sitch? I have not told anyone at work. At first I thought I had to so people would understand I was not myself. When I think of telling coworkers or a boss, I fear I will be overcome with emotion when they respond. A lot of people I work with know my W professionally as we are in the same line of work and have worked in many of the same circles. I am pretty private about my life outside of work and do not want to be the object of gossip and pity. Is it unhealthy to keep silent, hoping the M will be saved. People ask how W is doing periodically and I say she is OK, her job is going well etc.
It is good to have someone trustworthy and close you can talk too. But you by no means need to disclose to everybody. What you are doing is fine. This board is a great place to get things off your chest as well. I am happy very few people know of my short-lived seperation (essentially our immediate families); it allows us to still be natural around our old casual friends.
It is up to you, but I think it is natural and fine to keep these issues private for now.
