Mila,

I imagine that by hearing ex-ow's H, you might feel more in the know about what is happening. However, it is not healthy for you. And you have no control over what ex-ow does. And there is nothing you can do to influence events, they will be what they will be regardless of any conversations you may have with him. So why do it? Just let him and his creepy wife go away into nothingness, ignore him (detach from him, practice no contact, lol!! wink. Let him deal with his ridiculous wife, good riddance!! Well, my $02!!