Mila, yes, a good idea, what I ultimately did (through a bit tricky as I had to really search, we don't know anyone here!). Wish me luck.

Something though, just doesn't "feel" right. I know we all want to be in this situation where our WH's are paying attention, and I know I'm dealing with a lot of hurt and all, but still something feels off.

He's scared now that he might loose his job. I asked him how the job search was going to move here, which he said he was going to do, and at first he seemed to have had no clue what I was talking about, then scrambled for words, said different opposing things. WTF?? Is he really trying to live 2 lives indefinately?