I just read Britt's thread yesterday so go check it out. I think you have been dealing with similar issues in that Your H has been controlling all this.
I have said all along what most people decide to do is run from this sitch. You have had courage to stand in and stand up for your M. If you have been ambivalent the whole time you need to ask yourself if that hindered your thinking and actions.
This is truly the "worse" in "for better or worse" and most people around you don't understand what you are trying to do because they project their own fear.
Gucci's suggestion above is good because you're not fighting him anymore. Your not expecting some change or reaction from him. You have to decide what YOU want.
If you have do be the one to file then file, but know why you have to be the one to file. Pride? Anxious to move on with your life?
If you sit back and don't fight H and he files then you are standing up for better or worse. Your not in Limbo. You can still file whenever you want if you want.
I am not trying to convince you one way or the other I am just saying know why YOU are doing something.
If you've let him convince you of something that makes him feel better then where are you? Still on the receiving end of his BS and crazy head.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
