I am in full agreement with Saffie here, this idea that you have to beat him or him you is just ridiculous... its HURTFUL. The both of you need to start setting an adult example for your kids to follow... and trying to beat each other to make yourselves feel good ain't it.
The blanket thing was blatant pursuit.
You have GOT to stop listening to the CRAP he says... "He's done" is just BS. he spews... measure his ACTIONS... his ACTIONS are not showing he's DONE at ALL.. he goes out with you to functions, he participates at home with you and your kids, etc... he is NOT ACTING DONE at ALL.
What he's DOING is acting ENTITLED in order to get a FREE PASS BACK INTO HIS MARRIAGE.
He KNOWS if he acts apologietic and submissive that you will hammer down on him... so... he threatens that he's done and plays passive aggressive so YOU PURSUUE HIM... he is playing you here bigtime.
He's POUTING like a four-year-old in order to get YOU supplicating to HIM. It's a childrens game mothers know very well.
He isnt' done, he just wants a free pass back into the marriage. And you are gonna fall for it.
