VETERANS VIEWS ON WALKING AWAY.

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Two months ago see saw a mediator so we could get a post nuptial agreement in Place "In case things don't wok out"

It seems like she is afraid to follow through with it b/c it has been two months and she hasn't contacted me when to meet her to discuss it.

Yup. This sounds familiar. My H said he wanted D 9/7/09. Hasn't done a thing toward it.

This is what I'm thinking now and any advice would be appreciation:

Contact a realtor and find out what I could get for the house. Used this information and tell W I want to sell the house and move on or buy her out.

I have been GAL and 180ing my butt off and feel the only way to get through to he is to tell her I'm not going to be this R anymore and deserve better.

Any way back to the title heading,

PDT said that most success stories when the LBS decides to be the WAS. Is there validity to this? I know Coach's story does no fit this senario but do most others do???

I don't think you make a decision to become the WAS so much as you hit the point that nothing is worse than the limbo, the ego-shredding, WAS's crazy/mean/withdrawn behavior. I found myself detaching from H/M about 2 months ago.

Here is a link to that post: detached

It's not that I don't love H or want my M to end, it was the realization that I love me more. Seems a much more psychologically healthy place to be. H has made it clear through word and deed that he doesn't want me. H painted me into a corner; there's only one choice, and that is move on.

Perhaps down the road, H and I will reconcile. Perhaps not. But I feel much better about myself/sitch since I 'walked' out. H kept telling me he wanted me to go; one day I thought 'why the hell am I still here?'. Since moving out, if nothing else, I have peace every single day.

Hope that helps.