Gucci, I think I'm getting your point, but I must ask from a different angle.
The WAS doesn't come back because "love is a choice." They come back because they fear they will lose the LBS and this creates FEELINGS of desire for the LBS.
There for doesn't detaching, becoming the WAS, letting go, whatever it is, and whatever Brit did, have to come from feelings too? I think if we do it as a "choice" but inside we don't feel it, the WAS will see right through it and not feel any differently - they will see the LBS as just "trying" ie pursuing to get them back again. Doesn't letting go have to feel real in order for a real feeling to be the WAS's reaction?
Does that make sense?
Britt - then how did you get to that point of real detachment? ESpecially knowing what D does to children?
