W still wants separation, need to DB more

[TrentC]

Well, the goals are supposed to be for what you want more of, or want done differently, in the relationship.

Sgtxok had a thread over in Solutions Workshop where she was going to help people set goals.

The way she approached it was, what were things like in the relationship when these things happened more often? What can you do to help recreate that environment?

The other big thing is that you shouldn't focus on more than one or two goals at a time, and they should be something that can be accomplished within a week or two. So if I were in OIN's place, I would pick two of the smaller subgoals to focus on.