Quote: I guess the thing I'm confused about is that if he keeps referring to it as your D, that to me sounds like he doesn't want it.
So why would he mind if there is a continuance?
Yes, by the mere fact that he keeps saying it's my d, I would tend to think he doesn't want the d. But maybe he's using me to hide behind...so he can feel better about getting the d he really wants. After all I filed, he'll be free and be able to say I did it though it's what he wanted all along. I don't know why he would mind the continuance....maybe because we can't seem to get this right. We get along fine like this weekend until he gets a hair up his ass then it all goes crazy...he's just not stable and my db'ing doesn't seem to lend any stability to his actions (though it helps me). He goes with how he feels at any given moment.
Quote: If you dismiss and he refiles what has that accomplished for either of you?
I was warned yesterday not to dismiss because if my h was to refile he could take the house and the kids and I would be homeless. Or he could just stay married to me, and not give me any support, I'd have no house, no help with the kids and he could get the kids anytime he wants like take them from school or even put them in school over here and make me drive to see them. It could be horrid if I dismiss...I think I'm safer just walking away with what I have.
Quote: Will a paper either way, Married or Divorced, bring you closer together?
I don't know. This is my struggle. I know married we were not close...he wouldn't let me in. Now divorced he may find total peace in just mindless one night stands and no family obligations. He seems to want the second just by his current lifestyle. I just have no idea what the future will hold for us divorced. I have no hope that it will be reconciliation because he once said to me that he would not marry me if he had it to do all over again.
Quote: The only thing you can control is yourself. Sounds like there are some things that you identified tonight that you also need to work on. Use the time wisly and you will always be alright.
Yes, I admit last night was not my brightest moment. I should not have been so mean to him...I should have walked away from him as soon as I found out he was angry. Well now I can since I doubt I'll see him again until the hearing.
