Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Thanks James.

Quick update. Things continue to go well and friendly. W and I still have not had a chance to sign contract to list house...just scheduling difficulties on her end and realtors end. I've made myself available. The old me would have mentioned this to W that it's not my fault something isn't done. I'm not going there. I am going to make getting this house on the market as easy and stress free as possibly for my W. We'll get it done in the next day or two. I see a big difference in W since I agreed to sell the house. A lot more communication from her. It's mostly about the house but she is initiaing the contact. I continue to see her become more comfortable.

I met with my C today and updated him. He thought things are going well and moving in a positive direction. Based on recent events, he doesn't think my W has given up yet. He suggested to just continue more of the same...keep things friendly. He thought it was good that I'm not trying to take care of everything. My W has offered to help with some things. In the past I would have said that I don't mind taking care of it, not to be mean but just because I wanted to please her. My C said that it's good to have my W do the things she offers to do. It shows that I'm no longer trying to control the situation. My W and I were supposed to sign the contract to list the house tomorrow night. My C said to ask my W to dinner before we met with the realtor to talk about the house and other non R things.

Went to the gym tonight and my W showed up later. She was by herself tonight, her GF didn't come tonight. W came over and worked out very near to me again. We made eye contact a few times. She was very close to me at one point and I asked her if she wanted to do some push up exercises together. She said she was exhausted and couldn't do too much more tonight. She looks good but her face is really breaking out, she looks pale and her hair really got thin. She always got like this when she was stressed. When I saw this I really felt bad for her but also good about getting the house for sale. At least I can take that huge stress off of her.

I asked her if she wanted to get something to eat or drink after the workout. She said she couldn't because she had to be back to help her sister with something at 8pm. I don't think she was BSing me. She took no time to think about an excuse, she answered me right away. I said no problem and asked her if she wanted to get something to eat before or after we met with the realtor tomorrow night. She said that she can't after because she is taking a yoga class at the gym with her GF. I also believe this to be true because she knows I'm at the gym on Wednesday nights myself so I would know if she was lying. Then she told me that she could meet me at the house for awhile before we meet with the realtor (realtor is meeting us at the house to sign the listing contract). I told my W, ok, that would be good. I figured it was good that she didn't try to say no to everything. She offered the alternate plan to meet me before the appointment with the realtor. I didn't want to push her for what I wanted (dinner) so I was happy to take what she was willing to offer. As I left the gym I waved goodbye to her and she waved back.

Seems like things have come a long way since January. Back then she would barely talk to me. I was lucky to get an email. She wouldn't meet with me by herself. She was so withdrawn. Now, things are more relaxed, a lot more communication (initiated by her), much friendlier, meeting in person together, she does and follows through on what she tells me now. Overall things are more positive. When I look back and put things in perspective, I am happy with the progress.