Hi Defran, allow me to first say that my heart goes out to you in your situation. I can see why it is confusing for you to have kisses and hugs but no sex in your relationship. One thing that popped into my mind when I read your post was, have you tried doing laundry with her? If she is up late at night, getting household chores done, it might a) get her into bed earlier - which even if this doesn't result in sex might mean physical proximity while you sleep and b)that action might not be as intimidating to your wife as something "romantic" if she is sensitive to any action that might have a "price tag" so to speak.
